In Saudi Arabia, women constitutionally or legally are
unequal to men. They do not have the right to drive a car, for example. They
are socially restricted, unless if they are pre-pubescent or married and
accompanied by a male relation. They have fought and acquired the right to
education, and to work, but are segregated from men in the workplaces. A woman
in Saudi Arabia is born unequal, and is trained through practice to be
inferior.
In India, women are born legally equal. In fact, the
dominant religion holds women in high esteem, and some might argue, in higher
stead than men. She is educated, grows up with personal and professional
ambition and of course, can drive any car she wants. Some of the largest states
of our country are led by women, and it is popularly believed, that the country
itself is run by a woman. We have prominent women
in all walks of life – business, entertainment, politics, police, journalism
etc. and a girl child looks at these examples and may dare to dream.
We are clearly the fairer society. But are we? There are
~25k reported rapes in India every year. Given the closeted nature of our society,
and based on media estimates, the real number is expected to be as high as
250k. A woman is raped in India every two minutes. Only about one fourth of
rape cases lead to convictions. That effectively means that a rapist only has
about 3% chance of being convicted. Great odds, eh? In the glorious capital,
only 1 guy was convicted for rape in 2012, 600 rapes were reported. Though it
is positioned as the flag bearer of India’s rape culture, it accounts for ~3%
of the total. It doesn't just end there, 90% rapes seem to be registered against
offenders known to the victim, often family members. This is just like Saudi
Arabia now, isn't it? No. Saudis don’t harm their own children, they might
marry the nieces though.
We let our women out on paper planes, and then we let
ourselves loose on them. We tell them that they are free and equal and we want
them to outdo us, but we can’t tolerate it. If they win, we lose. Even the women
who have made it rule insecurely, wary of other women joining them, making
their feat smaller.
It’s not just men, and it’s not just men who rape women. We,
as a society, pull our women down. And the fact that we position ourselves as
liberal and progressive and equal is typically characteristic of India, isn't it?
We live dirty lives under a just, self-righteous veil. Just like the Saudis
now, eh?
It disturbs me immensely that scores of women were raped in India, in the time that I spent writing this. There is something desperately wrong.
"Myself from some years ago is someone I don't relate to anymore. Its as if he left me, and left me behind."
ReplyDeleteI feel the same, its empowering isn't it? Although I find myself more alone because of this, especially as an indian woman whose thoughts have been influenced, no transformed, by a society where woman are truly considered equal to men.
Nice article, unfortunately hypocrisy is a religion in India, and it's growing steadily.
Alone is not a very bad thing, I have learnt over the last few years. In fact I prefer it. There is this madness about mob mentality that makes you feel empty, without the mob. I don't need the mob anymore.
ReplyDeleteGlad you liked it and hope you're doing well.
Saudis dont hurt their children? think again; http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2273171/Fayhan-al-Ghamdi-raped-tortured-daughter-5-death-escapes-light-sentence.html
ReplyDeleteinteresting article! thanks for sharing. I was just trying to highlight the possibility that we might be worse than Saudi in this - but we might only be as bad as them..
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